How to Successfully Beat Yourself Up


Four Good Reasons to Beat Myself Up:

1. If I grew up in a family where rage and not healthy anger expression was only ever modeled, I will likely become afraid of my own anger. So I will direct it towards myself and see myself at fault.

2. It is easier to direct my anger towards myself than to speak my anger towards others.

3. I am deathly afraid my anger will go out of control and turn into rage, in the same way as I witnessed all around me in my family. Better that I direct it towards me rather than towards others and risk hurting those I love.

4. If I am angry at the person who abuses me but despite this I am more afraid of losing this person, I may make the choice to hold onto my anger and re-direct it towards myself than take the risk of expressing it.

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