Why Rage Thrives on Gossip


I recall a friend of mine whose mother was known to hold a lot of anger, none of which was ever expressed directly. Instead, her anger would be indirectly expressed in the form of sneak-attacks.

This woman’s husband had died some years after her daughter was born. The daughter’s features resembled her father. We used to wonder if this resemblance was the reason why the daughter was subject to the sneak-rage attacks from her mother.

One evening the daughter, who I will call Beverly, had taken a lot of time and trouble to dress up for an evening out with a group of family and friends. When she came down, those of us in the party who were waiting for her and others to arrive commented on how lovely she looked. The comments clearly pleased her. The mother, sitting nearby in an armchair decided to offer her unasked for opinion: “Well in my opinion, what you have chosen to wear makes you look completely dull,” she said.

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Anger versus Rage: The Essential Difference


Anger is a very hot, vibrant force. Traditionally, someone who is prone to bouts of anger is described as being a ‘hot-head, thus emulating the association between anger and heat.

When anger is present our body may feel as if it is heated up. If we are witness to someone expressing anger or rage we may see their face turn red in reflection of the heat of anger coursing through their system.

Surprisingly, the suppression of anger can cause lethargy…

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When Anger Becomes Rage


Few people really have a concept of anger. Most people when they talk about anger are really talking about rage. When they creatively avoid anger, essentially it is not anger they are steering themselves away from, it is the fear of their rage.

When people see and understand anger they begin to envision the value and benefits of cultivating a relationship with anger, so that it is allowed to have an active, healthy role in their life. Ironically, it is when people don’t have a healthy relationship with anger that they are more likely to act out their rage.

Anger is not rage, though anger can become rage. 

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How to Tell If You Are Holding Too much Anger


Anger is a fire emotion. The properties of fire may be experienced when there is an excessive amount of anger present in the emotional system. Whereas sadness has more inactive properties, the presence of anger results in increased activity.

The increased activity is the reflection of more heat in the emotional system.

When there is more heat in summer time, your house will be hotter upstairs and cooler downstairs in the basement. Heat rises. Heat will rise in our physical bodies in the same way it rises in our house. This means that many of the properties of heat are recognizable through the presence of head-based conditions.

The list below shows the properties of heat resulting from the presence of excessive anger in the emotional system:

  • Hyper-behaviour: difficulty sitting still; finding excuses for any short-term activity; the need to be on the go; overly motivated.
  • Feeling intolerant: easily irritated; people, things, or events getting on your nerves; bouts of anger or frustration; impatience.
  • An increase in allergy symptoms: stronger symptomatic reactions from known allergies.
  • Less grounded: feeling less “present:” the mind wanders off more than before, forgetting details more often; people complaining you are in your own world.
  • Head symptoms: increased headaches (or migraines if you are a migraine sufferer); slight, occasional bouts of dizziness; feeling spacey.
  • Excess heat: feeling generally hot especially at night, inclined to avoid hot weather or hot baths, nausea especially when upset or angry.
  • Sleeplessness: waking up in the middle of the night often with an active mind.

 One or more of these symptoms can indicate the presence of excessive anger in the emotional system.


For more reading please click this link: Creative Ways to Stifle Healthy Anger.

Tune in to next Friday’s blog to learn why we hold onto anger and what we can do to shift excessive anger.

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