As we negotiate, respond, and become more conscious of the various layers of defense and resistant parts of ourselves, the power and influence of our defenses diminishes in our lives.
This is the time in our personal growth when we may actively seek out opportunities to learn about ourselves.
It is the time of the quest…
The lady who has not yet fully mourned the loss of her husband begins her session by telling me about the death of her husband five years earlier. I ask her:
“Do you feel you are still holding onto your husband?”
She replies, “Yes.”
“Do you feel ready to let him go?” I ask in response.
In the early years of my private practice, I found that when clients gave expression to the emotions behind their issues, the physical discomfort they came in with often resolved quicker and more effectively than had the issue been treated without the aid of expression.
More effectively meant that the discomfort lessened in intensity, or was eliminated for a longer period of time than if the physical issue was treated without emotional expression.
I could not deny this link. I found in my own office a reliable connection between non-expressed emotion and physical conditions.
My initial response was to go for the jugular…